Crime can definitely be vanished. Criminals can be reformed into better citizens of the society like us. For this a complete change in the education system, judiciary system and society has to come in the picture. Children should be given value added education and not just bookish education. The main motive of education should not only be to help a child be a doctor, engineer, or accountant, but be a good and responsible citizen. Lock ups (police remands) should be a place of more counseling, rather than torturing, the people there. Their resentment, anger, jealousy, their reason for their act of crime and their mental state should be understood and healed there. Instead of making them hard core criminals, they could be transformed to a better individual.
The duty of society is to motivate them in the right path, give them proper time, be patient with them and give those lots of love and peace. The more we label them, the more we are stamping them, and they take a wrong path forever. People tend to make the same mistake again and again. This repetition of mistake happens because nobody is working on them. A person doesn’t repeat its mistake intentionally. It happens because nobody is working on their deep rooted belief that makes them commit the crime again and again. We should empathize and understand his reason of such action. We should never be judgemental.we should respect and dignify them. We should empower them and not judge them. We should always remember no one is inferior or superior. We all are equal. God has made us all equal. It’s just a few have forgotten their way. We need to get them to right track again. We need to motivate them. We can only motivate them, when we ourselves are motivated from inside. If we keep thinking that we are reforming them, or we are not motivating them whole-heartedly. Being judgmental is the biggest obstruction in process of motivating others. Even if we forgive them we keep making them realize it more and more. We feel proud of it all the time. Then also our reform process will be ineffective. We would not be able to reform them. We would not be successful in our motive. The motivator has to understand that he doesn’t reform anybody. He just energizes them, motivate them, and empower them, with our love to reform them, without being judgmental and they reform themselves by reforming their belief system.
Only appraising their strength, or speaking motivating lines or words, will not motivate them. We should first believe from within in whatever we are saying. Only when we believe in sumthing.we can make others believe in it too. Traces of impurity in actions, words or even in thoughts would amount to failure of the whole reform process. Only where there is purity in thought and belief, we can empower and reform others.
December 21, 2008
December 08, 2008
Clean Success!
TO BE CLEAN MEANS TO BE A SUCCESS!!
We usually interact based on our past experiences with them. Even if there has been a single negative experience with someone, we keep that in our mind and all our responses are based on those experiences. It’s very similar to wearing colored glasses. When we wear green colored glasses on our eyes everything we see appears to us in a shade of green. The thing we see is not necessarily green, but just because we have green covering on our eyes; everything appears to be green to us. The same happens in our relationships too. When we put the glasses of past experiences on our mindset; on our beliefs about the person, then our future also stays affected by it. When we filter our relationships in regard with our past experiences, our creativity to think better ends. This is why we do not experience any new thing in our relationship, because we have already fixed it in our mind that whatever happened in past, will again be repeated in future too. We are then, not able to be successful in our relationships.
In order to succeed in our relationships we need to keep our mind free from the experiences of the past. We can do this when we look at the uniqueness and specialty of each individual that we come into contact with. While in present we should not judge or/ and criticize anybody. We should accept them as they are, because we can’t be same in our yesterday and today. Each of us changes everyday. It’s a universal truth. Every thought we crate is different everyday, even if the situation is same. This practice makes us respect us all and be free from negativity of the past.
We usually interact based on our past experiences with them. Even if there has been a single negative experience with someone, we keep that in our mind and all our responses are based on those experiences. It’s very similar to wearing colored glasses. When we wear green colored glasses on our eyes everything we see appears to us in a shade of green. The thing we see is not necessarily green, but just because we have green covering on our eyes; everything appears to be green to us. The same happens in our relationships too. When we put the glasses of past experiences on our mindset; on our beliefs about the person, then our future also stays affected by it. When we filter our relationships in regard with our past experiences, our creativity to think better ends. This is why we do not experience any new thing in our relationship, because we have already fixed it in our mind that whatever happened in past, will again be repeated in future too. We are then, not able to be successful in our relationships.
In order to succeed in our relationships we need to keep our mind free from the experiences of the past. We can do this when we look at the uniqueness and specialty of each individual that we come into contact with. While in present we should not judge or/ and criticize anybody. We should accept them as they are, because we can’t be same in our yesterday and today. Each of us changes everyday. It’s a universal truth. Every thought we crate is different everyday, even if the situation is same. This practice makes us respect us all and be free from negativity of the past.
December 03, 2008
Hurt - punishment - Reform -Part 2
“Criminals”. The very moment we utter this word we are filled with hatredness.but why? Why this particular word does create so much of anger and resentment in us?
As per dictionary, “criminals” means a person who committed a crime; and crime means an offence against an individual or the state which is punishable by law.
Everybody in this world wants success, love, happiness, and power. The more wealth you have, the more success and power you have, the happier you are. If we like something, we should possess it. If it’s in anybody else’s possession by hook or by crook we make it ours. And this hook or crook leads to an action of crime, and the person becomes criminal. In order to satisfy our greed, we cheat, lie, threaten, Kill, and commit many other severe offences. When a person shows this kind of a behavior or action, it hurts us, and the hurt is too deep inside, which becomes hatred ness in us, and we tag them criminals. Our love, our compassion towards them dies. We show them no mercy. We punish them for their sin and we do. We wish to sentence them to death. We wish to extinct those criminals from our world .so we keep them away from our society. We discard them from our world as if they are some alien to us.
But does that fulfill the purpose of punishment? Does that bring about a change in them for good? Does that reform them?
No. instead of healing their bitterness, their resentment, punishment ignites it more in them. Their loneliness adds more to their pain, and it grows into hatredness.now their thoughts that came into action unintentionally becomes intentional. They commit more and more offences. It becomes a deep belief in them; a habit and an innocent person who unintentionally happened to commit a crime in his sub consciousness, becomes a hard core criminal.
Considering a very recent case of child shoot out in some school in gurgaon-a small child of 5 years shoot out another kid with his father’s gun in school. Immediately police was called in, and the child was arrested. We tagged him criminal. We labeled a 5 year kid as criminal. Great counselors were called in for the counseling of the children who witnessed the incident.
But who was in need of this counseling the most?
The child who killed another kid.
Were he given proper attention, care and counseling by the people?
No.
During counseling it was noticed that with every wrong action towards us from anyone, creates hatred ness towards him. At times this hatred ness is so strong that we feel like killing the person. The thought of killing is in so many of us. Infact in all of us. Aren’t we all criminals? Then why do we only tag people whose thoughts came into action, as criminals.
Why not all?
The child was going through a severe pain, loneliness, resentment, which made him do so. He was in an immediate need of love and compassion. But instead of understanding his state of mind, instead of filling his loneliness and pain with peace and love, we stated hating him. We withdrew ourselves from him and labeled him as a bad person in the society.
part-3
As per dictionary, “criminals” means a person who committed a crime; and crime means an offence against an individual or the state which is punishable by law.
Everybody in this world wants success, love, happiness, and power. The more wealth you have, the more success and power you have, the happier you are. If we like something, we should possess it. If it’s in anybody else’s possession by hook or by crook we make it ours. And this hook or crook leads to an action of crime, and the person becomes criminal. In order to satisfy our greed, we cheat, lie, threaten, Kill, and commit many other severe offences. When a person shows this kind of a behavior or action, it hurts us, and the hurt is too deep inside, which becomes hatred ness in us, and we tag them criminals. Our love, our compassion towards them dies. We show them no mercy. We punish them for their sin and we do. We wish to sentence them to death. We wish to extinct those criminals from our world .so we keep them away from our society. We discard them from our world as if they are some alien to us.
But does that fulfill the purpose of punishment? Does that bring about a change in them for good? Does that reform them?
No. instead of healing their bitterness, their resentment, punishment ignites it more in them. Their loneliness adds more to their pain, and it grows into hatredness.now their thoughts that came into action unintentionally becomes intentional. They commit more and more offences. It becomes a deep belief in them; a habit and an innocent person who unintentionally happened to commit a crime in his sub consciousness, becomes a hard core criminal.
Considering a very recent case of child shoot out in some school in gurgaon-a small child of 5 years shoot out another kid with his father’s gun in school. Immediately police was called in, and the child was arrested. We tagged him criminal. We labeled a 5 year kid as criminal. Great counselors were called in for the counseling of the children who witnessed the incident.
But who was in need of this counseling the most?
The child who killed another kid.
Were he given proper attention, care and counseling by the people?
No.
During counseling it was noticed that with every wrong action towards us from anyone, creates hatred ness towards him. At times this hatred ness is so strong that we feel like killing the person. The thought of killing is in so many of us. Infact in all of us. Aren’t we all criminals? Then why do we only tag people whose thoughts came into action, as criminals.
Why not all?
The child was going through a severe pain, loneliness, resentment, which made him do so. He was in an immediate need of love and compassion. But instead of understanding his state of mind, instead of filling his loneliness and pain with peace and love, we stated hating him. We withdrew ourselves from him and labeled him as a bad person in the society.
part-3
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