HURT-PUNISHMENT-REFORM 1

The very moment a person says us something wrong, or does something wrong to us, it immediately hits our emotions and we feel hurt. If anybody abuses us, insults us, we feel hurt. We are prone to hurt so much that even if a person stares at us for a minute more than usual as reaction we get hurt. Damages, loss, lies, rumors, gossips, whistle blowing, distortion, etc unethical behaviors from our seniors or juniors at work, from our family, and friends, etc, hurt us a lot. We tend to hold on to it.we keep thinking over it again and again. We keep re-living the pain and it grows big in us. It becomes gorge and stays within us. It becomes strong. We want to lash it out somewhere. We want to give back that hurt. We think the person who hurts us should also be hurt. He should also know how much he had hurt us.

“Be the mistakes is as small as mole or as big as mountain if it hurts us, the only thing that befits him is the punishment”, is what we think and a further step more we punish him. we hit them back, we abuse them physically or through words or actions, we insult them back, we hurt them back because we think they deserve it.we keep them away from us, when they need us the most. We don’t talk to them .we just turn our ears deaf to their requests. We sever our relationships from them.We just dump them out from our life and from society at times, just to teach them a lesson to have hurt us.we hurt them back and then they hurt us back again. And the cycle goes on and on. The pain keeps on moving from one to another and back. It never ends.

Nevertheless, does hurting them satisfy us? Does it heal our pain? Don’t we hurt our self more by hurting people who had hurt us intentionally or unintentionally?..Moreover hurting people whom we love… who love us.

We in our own pain tend to forget that the purpose of punishment is not to hurt them back but to make them realize their mistake, to reform them, to recreate their personality. The purpose of punishment is not to take revenge on people who have hurt us but to make them aware and conscious so that they do not make the mistake again. But because we really don’t make that effort people tend to make the same mistake again n again that resultantly hurts us a lot.

We just ignore their emotions ,their anger, hurt, resentment, in which intentionally or unintentionally they do or say something that hurt us.we don’t try to understand their situations in which they create such problems. Reform means to understand and heal the bitterness, anger, hurt, resentment; one is in to have hurt other person without passing a judgment in his actions. Instead we judge their actions, take revenge on them, and keep them away from us when they need us the most. We increase the bitterness in them and destroy our relations. Instead of actually reforming a person we deplete him more. We add more to the disorder of personality they already going through.


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